I had fun looking back at my stats for 2020. There were a few surprises, which I’ll get to in a minute. In all, though, what a year of revelation, for the Church anyway. Catholics quickly figured out how much the sacraments meant to both themselves, their pastors, and the State. Unfortunately we were devastatingly and deploringly deemed nonessential by most.
I wonder, how will this eventually pan out?
In any case, it was a year of clarity. Look, does the spiritual life matter to me or not? Yes? Then families will be seeking out churches that didn’t close during this hyped-up mania and will be finding pastors willing to teach the hard truths. There is nothing more important than our eternal salvation. Nothing.
Which reminds me, have you gone to confession yet in the New Year?
Most Popular Post of 2020
This leads me to my Most Popular Post of 2020: The Communion in the Hand Debacle. I can’t say I’m surprised by its popularity. The Holy Eucharist is our lifeline, so to speak. We cannot live without it, and furthermore, we have a right to receive on the tongue, no matter the circumstances.
Second Most Popular Post of 2020
My Second Most Popular Post of 2020 was Should One “Stockpile?” I thought this was interesting, as I didn’t expect that great of a response to it. For the record, I’m still inclined to say yes, it might be prudent to “stockpile” or have an extra supply of those things one normally consumes. I don’t think, however, one should obsess or go overboard.
Third Most Popular Post of 2020
My Third Most Popular Post of 2020 was actually from more than a year ago, which was a complete surprise, as I only include the clicks from this year. That means that I have multiple people every day still clicking on it. It’s Kim, Why Do You Always Wear Skirts? Women must be absolutely fascinated with this topic. Perhaps I’ll expound more on it later, for I do love my skirts.
Happy New Year!
As always, if there’s ever a topic you’d like to hear my thoughts on, be sure to drop me a line.
I’m not one to hoard things. I’m not one to have an over-stuffed pantry. I’m not one to buy extra food or supplies of anything, mostly because I hate clutter.
But I’ve been forced to rethink this, as I do my weekly grocery shopping and notice that certain items have been sold out week after week. Not only is rice and Cream of Chicken Soup almost always sold out, but there have been other things missing at times too–toilet paper, peanut butter, spaghetti noodles, chicken, bread, tampons…goodness, the list goes on.
I suspect it’s likely different from place-to-place. Those cities where rioting, looting, shooting, and burning aren’t happening, perhaps aren’t seeing a shortage of supplies. I don’t know. Here in Minnesota and Wisconsin, however, the supply chain seems to have been shaken a bit. I suppose because people have been shaken a bit.
I wonder if the cultural situation will get better or worse as we move nearer to the election? I think worse, especially if Trump wins. (Please God, let him win, though.) Those who are opposed to Trump seem to be very angry, and I mean, angry to the point of destruction.
First of all, it’s important to keep a few things in mind:
Don’t hyperventilate about gathering food, water, or supplies. Honestly, it does cause me some anxiety, as I’ve got a family of 9 to feed, but God knows. He’s in charge. I think of Matthew 6:26, “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?”
That said, Noah spent how long building an ark and gathering supplies while onlookers scoffed and partied? Or how about Joseph in the Old Testament spending 7 years gathering grain for Pharaoh to feed his people during the subsequent famine? This may be one of those times.
As far as what to stockpile, I would suggest buying only those items that you currently eat or use. Don’t buy a bunch of rice if you’ll never eat it. (What if one doesn’t need the extra food after all?) Rather, purchase those items you will use. For example, we love oatmeal, noodles, and peanut butter. It wouldn’t hurt us to have an abundance of those items around.
How about water? We’re not buying water, but rather filling each empty milk jug we consume with water and putting them in our garage loft. (We drink about four gallons of milk a week.) I will continue to do this until the cultural situation looks better.
Don’t break the budget. Only spend what money you can without putting your family in a tight spot.
Lastly, do you live in a major city where rioting has already occurred or might occur? Do as Fr. Z always recommends, have an escape route. Where are you going to go, should mobs truly begin destroying everything around you and the city is burning? It wouldn’t hurt to talk about it, even if it’s a scary thing. Remember, God gave us brains to use, but in the end, He is in charge. He loves you so much and will only allow that which is good for your soul.
Lastly, lastly…Go To Confession! The Sacraments matter. You know this.
I’d be curious to know your thoughts on these things? Or any ideas, questions, or concerns you might have? For, it’s all new to me.
*Mother Miriam just gave a talk at the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe last weekend wherein she told everybody to, “Wakeup!” We had better note what’s going on around us. It’s madness, and one ought to be prepared for a 3 month disruption of food supply.
As Bishops finally begin to allow for public Masses, many of the Catholic faithful find themselves in a difficult situation, for now some bishops are demanding that reception of the Holy Eucharist be in the hand only. This is a tragedy and a crisis of faith.
It should come as no surprise, however. Remember this?
According to this Pew Research Poll from last year, 69% of Catholics don’t believe in the Real Presence of Jesus in the Eucharist. Therefore, most bishops will have no problem forcing Catholics to abandon it’s age-old tradition of receiving our Lord on the tongue all in the name of Sanitation.
But for the rest of us, those who have come to believe in the Church’s teaching and have come to understand her reasons for receiving on the tongue, this will be a heart-rending moment. What to do?
For those who wish to be assured of their right to receive on the tongue–and you do have that right, regardless of what some bullying bishops may say–I will only direct you HERE where Fr. Z hashes it out once again. Let me repeat, you have a right to receive the Eucharist on the tongue, regardless of what your bishops or priests may be saying.
And if Fr. Z isn’t enough for you, read Cardinal Sarah’s latest statement HERE. As many of you know, Sarah is the Prefect of the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments. Let me put a few of his pointed remarks below:
“Nobody can prevent a priest from confessing and giving communion, nobody has the right to stop him. The sacrament must be respected. So even if it is not possible to attend Masses, the faithful can ask to be confessed and to receive Communion.”
“In Mass the priest has to look at God, instead he is getting used to looking at the camera, as if it were a show. We cannot go on like this.”
“There is already a rule in the Church and this must be respected: the faithful are free to receive Communion in the mouth or hand.”
“…the heart of the problem is the crisis of faith in the priesthood.”
In short, should you find yourself in this difficult situation wherein your bishops or priests are not allowing you to receive on the tongue, remember to be calm. Likely these bishops and priests were not formed well in seminary after all, and heavy-handed bishops can make priests’ lives miserable for not obeying their worldly whims and fancies.
In any case, after asking the Holy Spirit for guidance, consider pointing your priest or bishop to Cardinal Sarah’s latest statement. If he is still obstinate and refuses to give you Holy Communion on the tongue, remain steadfast and pray in your pew. Don’t capitulate. You will be vindicated at a later time, maybe in the next world.
The other day, when the twins and I were stranded in St. Paul, we decided to tour the old James J. Hill Mansion. I was of course wearing my usual attire: black shirt, gray skirt, and black boots.
And naturally I was minding my own business during this tour, politely listening to our Tour Guide in his ponytail, pink button-up shirt, and skinny jeans.
As we were entering the bed chamber and bathroom of the Mr. James J. Hill’s wife, our Tour Guide commented on the lack of a shower.
He glibly remarked, “You’ll notice, if you look into Mrs. Hill’s bathroom, that you will not see a shower, but rather only a bathtub. In fact, none of her daughters’ bathrooms have showers either, but all the boys do, as well as James Hill. This was because it was thought that if a woman were to take a shower, she may suddenly want to wear…”
He dramatically paused and then smirked, “pants.”
At this point, the Tour Guide grinned and looked directly at me, the only woman wearing a skirt in our group, and then remarked, “You probably don’t have a shower in your home?”
He winked at me and went on, “Watch out for those showers, ladies!”
Honestly, it took all my self-control to hold back an eye roll. Instead, I just interiorly rolled my eyes, for he meant his comment as a slight to any woman who would be backwards enough to prefer the chains of feminine attire.
Well, I do prefer dressing in a feminine way. I like skirts, and I like dresses. And I can really think of two main reasons why this is so:
I am a woman after all, and I like how skirts and dresses make me feel. I like feeling feminine. Why is that such a bad thing in our culture anyway? Why must we all be the same?
I’ve noticed that when I do “dress up,” I feel better about everything. My morale goes up. I’m happier. I’m a better wife and a better mother.
For the record, I do own one pair of jeans and one pair of black pants, which I do wear from time-to-time…even though I don’t like them.
Today, however, in honor of my Condescending Tour Guide I want to offer a challenge to any ladies out there who may have never given skirts or dresses a chance. I challenge you to a 30-Day Skirt-Wearing Fiesta. (Or Dress-Wearing Fiesta.)
30-Day Skirt-Wearing Fiesta Guidelines
Wear a skirt (or dress) for 30 days in a row.
Notice how it makes you feel. Uncomfortable? Pretty? Frumpy? Feminine? Whatever.
Does anyone treat you differently because you’re “dressed up” in a seriously “dressed down” culture?
Write these things down daily. Keep a journal.
At the end of 30 days, review your thoughts, and let me know what you think. I’m genuinely curious, for I realize that skirts and dresses are not everyone’s cup of tea.
I Did Not Grow Up Wearing Them Either
By the way, I never used to wear skirts every day. It just sort-of grew on me over the years, but I suppose it began about 15 years ago in grad school. I had a friend who consistently wore skirts, and she always looked so well put-together. Later she married and everlastingly wore the same thing: a black pencil skirt and a collared, button-up shirt. I can tell you, her presence commanded more respect and awe than if she had chosen to wear sweatpants and t-shirts.
In any case, I’ll close this post with photos and comments of my 4 skirts that I wear every single day. (I’ve also got a few nicer skirts and dresses for Mass…but I don’t feel like trying those on right now.)
This is my newest skirt, which I bought at Christopher and Banks for about $45 earlier this year. (It’s still available HERE on their website.) I like the jean material because it’s stiff. I don’t like flimsy material of any kind. The buttons that you see running down the front are deceiving, as they don’t actually unbutton. I also like this skirt because of its length. It’s great for any season. You’ll notice that all my skirts are this length, which is intentional.
I purchased this skirt for a few dollars at Clothes Mentor, a second-hand store. I’ve had it for a few years, and I still like it, even though I’m not a huge fan of brown.
I bought this skirt probably 7 or 8 years ago at Christopher and Banks. I don’t remember how much I paid for it. It’s also jean material, like the first skirt. (I clearly like jean material, even if some may think it nerdy.) I realize that when I wear this skirt, I’ve likely got “Homeschool Mom” tattooed on my forehead, but I don’t care.
Lastly, you’ve already seen this skirt. It was also purchased at Christopher and Banks 7 or 8 years ago, and I still like it, in spite of Condescending Tour Guides.
If you’ve got any other clothing-related questions, be sure to ask! Or, if you’d like a tour of my closet, click HERE.
For those of you who may be new here, I’ve also got some other thoughts on clothing and modesty HERE.