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What to do with Confirmation $$ ??

Many of you readers know that our five oldest children were recently confirmed by Raymond Cardinal Burke.  O glorious day!

I’ll post a few pictures below for a brief recap…

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The Eldest, just confirmed, making her way back to the pew at the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe.  Hard to see anything here, I know.
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Cardinal Burke giving The Youngest a blessing afterwards.
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Our whole family after receiving a blessing from His Eminence.

As the dust settles from last week and indelible marks remain on the children’s souls for all of eternity, there was only one item yet to be taken care of…

What to do with all that cash their relatives so graciously bestowed upon them?

Hmmm…what would you do, if you were given some cash as a child?

Without parental intervention, our children would likely have done one of two things:

  1. Shoved the cash into their piggy banks.  (Not a bad idea.)
  2. Biked over to the local grocery store and purchased ridiculous amounts of Mike and Ikes, Cherry Nibs, and Peanut Butter M&Ms.  (Fun.  But a bit of a waste.)

Fortunately, we had a plan, should any cash find their way into those Confirmation cards.  All the children–except The Eldest as she already owned one–purchased Latin Mass Missals, and they’ve arrived in the mail!

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Here they all are.

Their names are written on the front of them, and we keep them on this bookshelf in the living room for easy access.

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We’re very thankful that the older children can have their own missals, as we feel it’s important to begin familiarity with it as soon as possible.  There are wonderful things to learn about the Mass in these books too.  (For those of you who may be unfamiliar, the books have Latin on one side and English on the other with explanatory notes.)

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Here’s a shot of the pages directly preceding the prayers of the Mass.

But what about The Eldest, you might ask?  What did she purchase with her extra cash, since she already owned a missal?

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The Eldest’s 3 volume purchase, which sits on her bookshelf in her room.

She purchased the Roman Breviary, which was certainly more expensive.  Fortunately for her, she had saved up her piano money from the spring and summer.  Now she will be able to pray the responses during Lauds, which begins around 6:25am in our household.

Hopefully in a year or two the boys will be able to purchase their own breviaries too.  These books are very beautiful.  We find it edifying and inspiring to pray the ancient psalms of the Church day in and day out, and we look forward to the boys praying them aloud.  As it is now, they sit quietly with us and are either silently praying in their hearts or dozing in the candle light…

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Thank you to all the grandmas, grandpas, aunts, and uncle who contributed to the children’s Holy Book Fund!

And most especially, thank you to everyone who prayed for the children on that most memorable day!

Motherhood & Parenting

Children & Chores!

Awhile ago I was asked if I might share what our children do around the house?  You bet.

Children & Chores

It’s just downright hard raising kids, no?

The other day I was delegating extra chores to the children, and it was entertaining to observe their reactions.  One rolled her eyes.  One flung himself on a chair and cried, “Oh, why?!”  Another slid towards the door and ducked out, hoping he wasn’t seen, while The Eldest sermonized on the injustice of it all.

I did have one child quietly and immediately go grab the broom.  (What an angel.)

I had the thought that this would be a lot easier if I could just hire a nanny.  Except that I’d probably need 5 nannies to get all this work done.

Yeah, like 5 nannies, a cleaning lady, a cook, and a mechanic.  That’s what I’d need to run this circus parade.

Just What In the World Do Your Children Do Anyway?

Now, before I begin, I must remind everyone that just because my children do these particular tasks, doesn’t necessarily mean that yours will need to too.  All families are different and have different needs after all.

So without further ado, here we go.

The Eldest (12 yrs. old)

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Here she is.  Diligently drying dishes.

1.  Makes breakfast for everyone Monday through Friday.
2.  Takes out all trash, whenever needed, because she once complained about it.
3.  Wipes table at lunch.
4.  Dries dishes at supper.
5.  On Saturdays, cleans main floor girl bathroom, hallway, homeschool room, and front door area.*

Twin #1 (10 yrs. old)

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He made supper this night, but that’s not his regular chore.  He volunteered for this one.

1.  Washes dishes at lunch.
2.  Washes dishes at supper.
3.  On Saturdays, cleans basement living room, laundry room, and stairway.

Twin #3 (10 yrs. old)

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Whoa, look at those muscles…

1.  Dries dishes at lunch.
2.  Sweeps floor at supper.
3.  On Saturdays, cleans basement boy bathroom (gross, just gross) and upstairs living room.

Child #4 (8 yrs. old)

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He gets to vacuum the garage every night.  He’s terrible at it, though, because he’s so easily distracted by rollerblades, ping-pong balls, baseball bats…you name it.  It takes him forever.

1.  Sets table at breakfast
2.  Sweeps floor at lunch.
3.  Vacuums garage rug after supper.  (Ha!)
4.  On Saturdays, cleans boy bedroom and garage.

Child #5 (6 yrs. old)

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She’s my best organizer.  She’d organize the dirty laundry basket, if I asked her to.

1.  Sets table at breakfast.
2.  Wipes table at lunch.
3.  Carries cloth napkins to laundry after supper.
4.  On Saturdays, cleans baby room and girl bedroom.

Child #6 (3 yrs. old)

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So cute.

1.  She does nothing though.
2.  Just nothing.
3.  What a slacker.

The Toddler (1 yr. old)

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Found her in the pantry.  Just wrecking stuff.

1.  Just wrecks stuff.
2.  Like all the time.
3.  At least she’s happy!

There are other things they help out with too.  For example, this summer the twins had to water all 200 bushes and trees twice a week.  This took them about 3 hours a shot.

And of course all the children help weed and care for the garden and all that.

Chores as a Consequence For Bad Behavior?

Yes.

We are firm believers in administering chores as consequences.  In fact, I’m really into using consequences to my advantage and to the benefit of the house.

For example, if Twin #1 punches his brother, I just pause a minute and look around.  Hmmm…what needs to get done around here?  “Twin #1, you will now need to wash all the living room windows.”

“Ah, Mom!”

“Now you’ll need to wash the dining room windows too.”

Allowances?

Nope.

I know allowances work for some families, and I’ve even heard of families incorporating math with the administration of them, which I think is admirable, but just the thought of that overwhelms me.  In fact, I don’t carry a lot of cash around, and really, I don’t want the hassle of paying the children to do things.  Call me lazy.  Or just plain busy.

That said, I do bribe them from time-to-time with odd jobs.  For example, the other day I wanted the junk drawer organized.  I didn’t want to do it.  I offered Child #5 a handful of gummy bears, if she’d do it?  Gladly.

Then, I wanted the van washed.  “Boys, want to earn $3?”

“Yes.”

And then sometimes they get creative and accost me with a proposition.

“Hey, Mom, would you like the van vacuumed too?”

“Yes.”

“We’ll do it for $2.”

“You’re hired.”

Last Question on Money

From time-to-time the children do get money from us and from relatives on birthdays or whatever.  So, then, what do the children do with their money?

We require them immediately to put half of whatever they’ve received into their piggy banks, which eventually gets deposited into their savings accounts.

The other half they may do with as they please.  Usually they just stuff it all in their piggy banks anyway.

Any other questions?  Be sure to ask!

 

 

*These Saturday cleanings are supposed to be very thorough.  Each child has a check list of things that they must do to each room.  Now, there are slackers among the ranks, and we do have to help those slackers to remember to actually DO their cleaning…