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Kim, Why Do You Always Wear Skirts?!

The other day, when the twins and I were stranded in St. Paul, we decided to tour the old James J. Hill Mansion.  I was of course wearing my usual attire: black shirt, gray skirt, and black boots.

For the record, this is the exact gray skirt I was wearing that day…

And naturally I was minding my own business during this tour, politely listening to our Tour Guide in his ponytail, pink button-up shirt, and skinny jeans.

As we were entering the bed chamber and bathroom of the Mr. James J. Hill’s wife, our Tour Guide commented on the lack of a shower.

He glibly remarked, “You’ll notice, if you look into Mrs. Hill’s bathroom, that you will not see a shower, but rather only a bathtub.  In fact, none of her daughters’ bathrooms have showers either, but all the boys do, as well as James Hill.  This was because it was thought that if a woman were to take a shower, she may suddenly want to wear…”

He dramatically paused and then smirked, “pants.”

At this point, the Tour Guide grinned and looked directly at me, the only woman wearing a skirt in our group, and then remarked, “You probably don’t have a shower in your home?”

He winked at me and went on, “Watch out for those showers, ladies!”

Honestly, it took all my self-control to hold back an eye roll.  Instead, I just interiorly rolled my eyes, for he meant his comment as a slight to any woman who would be backwards enough to prefer the chains of feminine attire.

Well, I do prefer dressing in a feminine way.  I like skirts, and I like dresses.  And I can really think of two main reasons why this is so:

  1. I am a woman after all, and I like how skirts and dresses make me feel.  I like feeling feminine.  Why is that such a bad thing in our culture anyway?  Why must we all be the same?
  2. I’ve noticed that when I do “dress up,” I feel better about everything.  My morale goes up.  I’m happier.  I’m a better wife and a better mother.
For the record, I do own one pair of jeans and one pair of black pants, which I do wear from time-to-time…even though I don’t like them.

Today, however, in honor of my Condescending Tour Guide I want to offer a challenge to any ladies out there who may have never given skirts or dresses a chance.  I challenge you to a 30-Day Skirt-Wearing Fiesta.  (Or Dress-Wearing Fiesta.)

30-Day Skirt-Wearing Fiesta Guidelines

  1. Wear a skirt (or dress) for 30 days in a row.
  2. Notice how it makes you feel.  Uncomfortable?   Pretty?  Frumpy?  Feminine?  Whatever.
  3. Does anyone treat you differently because you’re “dressed up” in a seriously “dressed down” culture?
  4. Write these things down daily.  Keep a journal.
  5. At the end of 30 days, review your thoughts, and let me know what you think.  I’m genuinely curious, for I realize that skirts and dresses are not everyone’s cup of tea.

I Did Not Grow Up Wearing Them Either

By the way, I never used to wear skirts every day.  It just sort-of grew on me over the years, but I suppose it began about 15 years ago in grad school.  I had a friend who consistently wore skirts, and she always looked so well put-together.  Later she married and everlastingly wore the same thing: a black pencil skirt and a collared, button-up shirt.  I can tell you, her presence commanded more respect and awe than if she had chosen to wear sweatpants and t-shirts.

In any case, I’ll close this post with photos and comments of my 4 skirts that I wear every single day.  (I’ve also got a few nicer skirts and dresses for Mass…but I don’t feel like trying those on right now.)

Skirt #1


This is my newest skirt, which I bought at Christopher and Banks for about $45 earlier this year.  (It’s still available HERE on their website.)  I like the jean material because it’s stiff.  I don’t like flimsy material of any kind.  The buttons that you see running down the front are deceiving, as they don’t actually unbutton.   I also like this skirt because of its length.  It’s great for any season.  You’ll notice that all my skirts are this length, which is intentional.

Skirt #2


I purchased this skirt for a few dollars at Clothes Mentor, a second-hand store.  I’ve had it for a few years, and I still like it, even though I’m not a huge fan of brown.

Skirt #3


I bought this skirt probably 7 or 8 years ago at Christopher and Banks.  I don’t remember how much I paid for it.  It’s also jean material, like the first skirt.  (I clearly like jean material, even if some may think it nerdy.)  I realize that when I wear this skirt, I’ve likely got “Homeschool Mom” tattooed on my forehead, but I don’t care.

Skirt #4


Lastly, you’ve already seen this skirt.  It was also purchased at Christopher and Banks 7 or 8 years ago, and I still like it, in spite of Condescending Tour Guides.

If you’ve got any other clothing-related questions, be sure to ask!  Or, if you’d like a tour of my closet, click HERE.

For those of you who may be new here, I’ve also got some other thoughts on clothing and modesty HERE.

9 thoughts on “Kim, Why Do You Always Wear Skirts?!”

  1. As a man, I always notice a world of difference between women in pants and women in skirts, both in their respective attitudes and in my instinctive reactions to them. Thank you, thank you for wearing skirts!!

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  2. I have been wearing nothing but skirts/dresses for almost 24 years now, & both of my daughters as well, since they could walk, one is 17 & the other is 9. It’s just the norm for them.

    Any man that I’ve had a conversation with about this subject…. and my husband of 26 years would agree…. that men, (adult men, not necessarily teenagers who haven’t grown up yet or matured yet), but most MEN, would rather see a lady in a nice skirt, or pretty dress, that’s flattering on her, that actually doesn’t show off every single detail of her body!

    Just wanted to share with ya my thoughts about this… hope you have a wonderful night! God Bless!


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  3. Skirts are lovely, but in the wind, they blow about. It’s very hot and windy where we live! And I also don’t like the feeling of my upper thighs chafing together as I walk, so it’s slacks for me most of the time. A pretty top is all I need to feel feminine.


    1. Hello! I wear skirts, too. I believe it is the best way I can represent Christ in my appearance by modesty and by gender distinction. I prefer the comfort of pants, though, so at home with family I wear sweat pants/capris. Recently, we went rock climbing for the first time, and I took off my skirt to do it. I couldn’t climb with it on. I wore frumpy denim pants and a harness. I had mixed feelings about it. On one hand, my husband and I want to continue to go rock climbing because we really like it, and I realize people will see me without a skirt, and I’m like, “it’s fine; I’m not entirely defined by my clothing.” On the other hand, I’m like, “am I lowering my standards?” I don’t even want to reveal that I took off my skirt to some of my closest friends/mentors because I don’t think they would like it. Other close friends don’t care whatsoever. All of these are prayerful, sincere people who live their lives in service to God. It’s an interesting subject.
      Your thoughts?
      Also, your skirts look very nice. I would like to wear skirts like that, but I cannot bear to wear skirts that limit my range of motion. I always wear skirts that allow me to squat, lunge, and sit in any position. How do you manage in narrow skirts?
      Do you have a swim skirt? I do.


      1. While I don’t rock climb, I do enjoy jogging a mile or two most days. For this, I wear pants, or if the weather allows, capris with a skirt attached to it. (See link below.)

        At home, I don’t wear pants, except when I go to bed, as I prefer pants/shorts for this. “Dress” pajamas seem to become twisted with all the tossing and turning I do at night.

        How do I manage with “narrow” skirts? I just do, I guess. I like their neat appearance. But really, if you prefer another style, I wouldn’t worry too much.

        I like your questions, perhaps I’ll write more on this topic.


  4. I would love to wear skirts full time but I am so afraid of ruining them doing housework and playing with the dog, etc. Advice?


    1. My mom has three sets of china, all very beautiful. I wouldn’t know that they exist, except that she made use of them for special occasions. She let us children eat off her lovely, delicate dishes, taking the risk that we may break them. I did once break her crystal water pitcher. And yet, she continued to use them.

      Never be afraid of ruining something beautiful that ought to be used.

      Why not, like dishes, have everyday skirts and special occasion skirts?


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